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By: Pawel Decowski

Pawel Decowski — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 15:52:39 +0000

Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.

Charles Schwab

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By: jungle

jungle — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 00:22:41 +0000

Parent and programmer here. We’re talking kids here, right? As other commenters said, when a bug results in damage, the problem is not the programmer but the process. That said, we all need some recognition for our efforts from time to time. We all have an “inner child”.

Back to kids. Yes, kids know they failed. But if the only thing you do is praise them they’ll loose all motivation to do better.

You should not punish them for mistakes nor should you praise them for trivial things they did well. Instead, focus on helping them to learn from the mistake.

These two Fundamental Facts of Life are valid for both individuals and organizations:
1. Mistakes are learning opportunities
2. Everybody makes mistakes.

By: George Grasser

George Grasser — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 23:40:31 +0000

Sometimes just offering to help can get you in big trouble.

I go on trial August 2nd in Haworth New Jersey. I have been charged with “Offering Chess Lesson’s to Children without a Permit. Solicitation of Business/Attempt to Take or Gain Favor by Schmooze”.

I mention it here at the 3:50 mark

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hl7H0HXeMLM

I have taught over 100 Children completely free of charge since 2008.
To put me on trial for offering kind encouraging words is shameful.

George Grasser

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Sun, 20 Jun 2010 22:18:29 +0000

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By: Isaac Gouy

Isaac Gouy — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:42:41 +0000

"Sincerity of praise is also crucial. Just as we can sniff out the true meaning of a backhanded compliment or a disingenuous apology, children, too, scrutinize praise for hidden agendas. Only young children—under the age of 7—take praise at face value: Older children are just as suspicious of it as adults."

How Not to Talk to Your Kids

By: Isaac Gouy

Isaac Gouy — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:40:32 +0000

Sincerity of praise is also crucial. Just as we can sniff out the true meaning of a backhanded compliment or a disingenuous apology, children, too, scrutinize praise for hidden agendas. Only young children—under the age of 7—take praise at face value: Older children are just as suspicious of it as adults.

By: Isaac Gouy

Isaac Gouy — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 17:29:13 +0000

If the intellectual and emotional maturity of the grown-ups you’re working with is at the same level as those chess tournament kids, then there might be some basis for your suggestion that we treat them like kids.

In itself, the fact that a software developer introduced a bug isn’t interesting.

It becomes interesting
- if the bug wasn’t caught (what’s wrong with the process?)
- if the developer introduces more bugs than the other developers (is she/he following the process?)

Of the 5 things you list as “find the thing he does well” only one of them has anything to do with the “very damaging bug” so the obvious lesson is that you simply don’t care about the “very damaging bug”.

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